Seriously, boys...
...just how important is it that a girl have large breasts? I only know one guy who honestly finds smaller breasts attractive over larger ones. Are girls without large breasts doomed to be the lesser woman?
How high is it on your list of "things a girl I'm interested in should have"? I'm curious. I mean, *I* find girls with large breasts attractive, too. I find girls with small breasts just as attractive though, and stereotypically guys find girls with larger breasts way more attractive.
Just something I'm wondering about way too late at night.
How high is it on your list of "things a girl I'm interested in should have"? I'm curious. I mean, *I* find girls with large breasts attractive, too. I find girls with small breasts just as attractive though, and stereotypically guys find girls with larger breasts way more attractive.
Just something I'm wondering about way too late at night.
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Then again, I'm more of an ass guy.
Big breasts can be great and awesome. I once dated a girl who was borderline C and D. Big and soft and squishy and awesome.
BUT! This is the most importnat! She has to LIKE it! Big breasts are pointless on a girl if she's indifferent to you or what you do.
I live in China. Hence, I did not come to find big breasts. If I wanted big breasts I would have stayed in tubby America. Petite chests are also very, very attractive, if they know what they're doing with them. It's all proportional. Big breasts on a tiny girl just look weird, like you're dating a fun house mirror of a girl. If you want anything bigger than a D, just go date a big girl.
Big breasts can look good on the outside, but oftentimes they are saggy and floppy and ugly when they are naked. Those are not cool. And if they are too big, you might suffocate! Although I will admit suffocation by overdose of breast is an awesome way to die.
I might be rambling. The company intern and I just drank a keg of beer for $9 bucks, along with a lot of seafood to boot. It was great. And the computer is moving because it is NOT NICE. I'm going home now.
Queer.
As for Mish's question:
Personally I've never understood breast size fascination. Breasts are breasts regardless of the size....
Of course, this is a more intimate view of breasts. As far as just seeing women out in public, there is some kind of fascination with large breasts, and I really don't know why. I know that large breasts tend to be saggy and infirm, and I would rather not have that, but still the fascination remains. That doesn't mean I'm not fascinated by smaller breasts, they just don't draw my attention quite as well if I'm just seeing that person for 5 seconds before we both pass by.
Bottom line, as far as I'm concerned, in a relationship/sexual encounter context, a girl's attitude toward her breasts is the most important thing. She has to like them being a part of the whole experience. Size is pretty much unimportant, though if I have to pick a size, I prefer a size that allows for firmness and shapeliness, which seems to be around the B/C area. But the girl and her attitude is way more important than the size of her breasts.
All that said, I don't totally buy into the idea that all men want are breasts and more of 'em. It really is a stereotype, and different guys are into different things.
There's a lot more of them out there than you think. The problem is, the guys who only dig huge, disgustingly disproportionate (like Ryan and Matt said) ones are usually massive tools whose drunken shouts and high fives distract us from everyone else.
As a girl who's probably reached her stopping point growth-wise (approaching 26 here), I would probably classify myself as being on the smaller side...and it's really never seemed to have been too much of a problem for me. That being said, I have a rather sizeable arse, and it seems that a significant portion of the male population is all about that...
I think that there's no set "type" that are going to do it for everyone. A lot of frat-boy retards that I know seem to be infatuated with skinny girls who've got massive amounts of silicone (which can I just say...ew. Both to frat boys and to fake breasts.). Most of the non-white guys I know are into curviness all around, and quite a few of the "artsy" boys that I know like girls to be smaller.
THAT BEING SAID...
This of course, is not applicable to every man. Not all are going to fit into a "catergory" so far as preference (this is all merely my observations as a woman, please guys, don't jump on me for this), just as, not every breast will.
So, I guess what I am trying to say here is that it doesn't really matter. Some guys are going to love your body, some guys are going to hate your body...
...but fuck all of that.
There's too much emphasis placed on all of that superficial crap, nobody else's opinion on your body matters, only YOURS does!
Um, so...yeah.
And as a girl who's into girls...I can also say that size doesn't matter to me. So long as they're real.
...And questions like this are a little bit like a guy asking if his dick is too small.
Also I have no "hands on" experience in this matter if you'll pardon such an evil pun. As such, I can still see some possible confusion here.
What I'm seeing is that among the more vocal guys of this board it would be better to be small than saggy/silicone or even simply too large. Certainly it's a sentiment I share, but it doesn't encourage one who is saggy I suppose. There's not much I can say for that bit. No experience remember? The real issue is that terms like "small" and "large" are subjective, so you'll never get totally clear answers. There are none. Guys some other place may have different thoughts than those of us here.
Size also plays a role outside of sex. Breasts don't go away when you pull a shirt over them, but when you do, it can obscure them, so size would then seem to have a more prominent role. As a guy I can say large breasts are quite an attention grabber, but they are still only part of the package and there's always the product inside that package to consider too. In my case a fancy package might get me to look, but it won't sell me the product.
But now I've gone and objectified women, so maybe I should stop here.
It used to bother me WAY more than it does now, obviously I've had plenty of time to get over it and move on with my life, focusing on other parts of my body-- staying skinny used to be my obsession but I've kind of lost interest in that too, haha. Anyways, this annoyance of mine only hits base every now and then, and I think at the moment I'm feeling better about it. I was reminded last night of how my boyfriend once dated a girl with double D breasts when he was like 15, and I honestly just feel bad for him now; I simply cannot compete with that.
I'm not saying that he does ANYTHING to point out that he'd rather I have larger boobs, but I know that before we were dating, he was a breast type of guy. Now he claims to be an ass guy, and while I'm happy he has tried to change what he finds attractive just for me, the reminder last night told me that nope, he's still a boobs guy, no matter how hard he tries. Not something to worry about, really, since I know our relationship is not in jeopardy and that he wouldn't go out and find another girl just because I was lacking in the breast area... but it's still a slight disappointment for me. I COULD get implants, but like I've told him before, that would most likely only make me feel worse about the situation, and I have no desire to get any. Too much money for too materialistic a type of purchase.
I'm over it. For now.
Oh, and Ryan, my boyfriend has joked around once about him almost suffocating in double D breasts, we both agreed that it WOULD be an awesome way to die. You'd have to make a point to mention it on the tombstone, so everyone could be proud.
Also: Tanktops. More girls need to wear tanktops.
And as for tank tops... I don't know. I actually have a complicated view on breasts. One on hand, I think they're totally awesome and desirable, and on the other I revile them for their power to turn men into simpering apes. I don't like that they have such power over me when I have nothing that powerful to turn against them, and more women wearing tanktops would only exacerbate the situation. I'm so torn...
Actually, personally, I don't ever pay attention to breast size anymore. It's probably because my girlfriend does have a pretty well sized bust. C-D, I'm not entirely sure, but every time I see her in her bra, they're always popping out. But the thing is, it just doesn't phase me when I see any other girl's breasts. I mean, sure, I can still get sexually stimulated by breasts, but I don't feel like I want any other set of chesticles than my Stephy's.
Now, for my rough-draft list of things I find (physically) attractive in a woman, starting from most important to least.
1) Body shape: must be anywhere from lower-middle weight to emaciated.
2) Face: Pock marks and unibrows are frowned upon. A woman's ability to USE her face, too, is important. This means I like a woman who has very many and very expressive facial expressions. Think Audrey Tatou
3) Skin: I like it soft!
4) Hair! Lordy oh Lordy I like hair! That doesn't mean it needs to be long! Or short! I like hair that is styled more unique than the hair of other women in the area. For example: most women here near Destin, FL have the straight, long, dumb-blonde haircut. My current girlfriend's hair is more of a short, boyish, bleached look. While I don't really like the bleachedness of her hair (it's too dry, I like well-maintained hair) the shape makes up for it.
5) Posture: I like a girl with a nice concave curve to her back.
6) Body hair: Most of the time, nonono. Once in a blue moon I'll feel very kinky and my porn of choice will be 70's vintage.
7) Breasts: They're called mammary glands, and anything else is disrespectful to women.
8) Teeth: My teeth are a thunderstruck graveyard. While I prefer a woman with perfectly white and straight teeth, I am very forgiving because of my own affliction.
This is not a definitive list. For example, Lauren, most of the time I find eyes inconsequential. Yours, however, are two of the most beautiful ones I've ever seen.
I think what I was trying to say is that big breasts do hold a kind of fascination, at least on an instinctual level, and it looks like Mario touched on that already. But, disproportionately big is not exactly good either. I like Jakey's grandfather's quote.
And fake boobs are an insult to god, nature, or whatever you believe. I absolutely despise fake boobs. Mostly, I see fake boobs as a window to the personality of the girl, and it shows that she is vain, shallow, and believes money can solve all of her problems.
But anyway Mish, don't worry too much about what you do and do not have. So you don't walk around with two D sized sweaterpuppies, big deal. Did you need them to attract your boyfriend, who was admittedly a breast guy in the first place? Apparently you didn't, because you had plenty of other good characteristics and physical traits.
Great looking boobs are great. They need to be round(not like, fake, soft-ball shaped round), reasonably perky, and the nipples have to point more or less forward. Big boobs can be too far out or saggy or go flat, but when they're in a shirt, they are shaped nice, and when you see a girl with well-presented D's walking down the street, you look and it makes you happy. I am a guy who truly has no "type" when it comes to women. I am actually turned on by personality. I went from a skinny, muscular girl, to a squishy DD girl, to a thin, perfect-assed, flat as flat can be girl, in one year (yeah, I have long-term relationships). Basically, as long as you're not ridiculously ugly or obese or have a beard or anything like that, you're fine. Just don't act like you're perfect and guys will forgive any imperfection.
Edit: um, meant for mario...
And, you know, I'm running on conjecture, so that might be part of it too. And the fact that my life is simpler if I believe that smaller is better, since I have never had and won't ever (barring divorce or untimely death) have access to DD breasts. So I'll just assume that firm beats large, because that's basically my mindset anyway.