If we judged male genetalia the way that we judge breasts, none of you would ever feel comfortable getting a hard-on again...
We could indeed say, "hey, let's shift the attention over to the men". However, the argument won't be anything close to what the breasts one was, simply because of the ratio of men to women posting on this site...
And, as for your first statement... is that because you feel that breasts are judged by size WAAAAY too much, and that we'd all feel inadequate?
Oh, and I'm not married quite yet. The wedding is about 2 weeks away. When I get pictures and everything I will post the best ones here and provide links to the album. I will make sure to get an OB picture, too. Serephel, Behemoth, and I will all be there.
Not even just the size...more or less, you're all saying that it doesn't REALLY matter...but then you're all nitpicking. Round but not too round, firm but not fake, soft but not super squishy or saggy...
It's a bunch of bullshit, and it's EXACTLY the sort of crap that makes girls feel inadequate and terrible about themselves...
Sorry, I guess this thread is bugging me more than it should. But, were it reversed, were there 10 girls and 2 guys posting about penis size, and shape, and girth, and hardness, ect...you'd probably all start to feel kinda bad about yourselves, I'd bet.
Probably, so I'm glad I'm on the majority side right now. You're reading in to it too much, to be sure. Stating our preferences shouldn't make you feel inadequate. I mean, I would prefer lobster every night for dinner, but spaghetti is in no way inadequate.
Also, like women, spaghetti has no feelings to hurt!
Well, you have my apologies if I made you feel inadequate, that was not my intention at all, nor do I think it was anyone else's.
But, in our defense, we all started by saying that it really doesn't matter, that the most important thing in a girl is her personality and how she carries herself. The rest is all extra. But even still, everyone is going to have preferences, even if those preferences don't play into attraction. I'm sure that almost all women have a preference for a certain penis type, but it usually doesn't impact their choice of who to be with, just like breast size doesn't impact my choice of who to be with.
And yeah, it's not the greatest to know that you don't have the perfect body. Everyone wants that, but almost no one has it. I think you have to kinda look past that and realize that most people will be just fine with what you have, and that how you use what you have is also important.
Some guys have really small or unusually shaped penises. There's nothing they can do about that, and yeah, it would be nice for them to have larger penises, but they just have to make due and use what they have. And these men still are in relationships, and still get married, and still have sex, because of the understanding of their partners, who are, themselves, imperfect.
Not even just the size...more or less, you're all saying that it doesn't REALLY matter...but then you're all nitpicking. Round but not too round, firm but not fake, soft but not super squishy or saggy...
It's a bunch of bullshit, and it's EXACTLY the sort of crap that makes girls feel inadequate and terrible about themselves...
No no, you're taking it the wrong way.
What we've been trying to say is that all breasts are more or less enjoyable, and that they're enjoyable differently. Big floppy milkbags have their applications in bed, but so do small and firm ones.
Men like breasts, yes, but most times they are not a deciding factor in finding a woman. Far from it. While I'm sure there are some guys out there who do think, "This girl has every single interest I have, my friends love her, I could be happy with this girl forever, her ass is amazing, she's totally hot, but DAMNIT she is only a B so I guess we'll never be happy," the vast majority of people don't put that much weight into breast size.
Besides, men have plenty to be insecure about with penis sizes and structures. Especially when you walk around Japan next to a guy who's a head taller than you, much more strongly built, and goes by the monicker Behemoth.
And yes, illithid is getting married in a few weeks. I get to go back to America and best man it up. It will be fun!
Not even just the size...more or less, you're all saying that it doesn't REALLY matter...but then you're all nitpicking. Round but not too round, firm but not fake, soft but not super squishy or saggy...
It's a bunch of bullshit, and it's EXACTLY the sort of crap that makes girls feel inadequate and terrible about themselves...
Sorry, I guess this thread is bugging me more than it should. But, were it reversed, were there 10 girls and 2 guys posting about penis size, and shape, and girth, and hardness, ect...you'd probably all start to feel kinda bad about yourselves, I'd bet.
I keep trying to get out of this thread, but I felt I should point out that the big difference between discussing female breasts and discussing male genitalia is that the former is visible externally in day-to-day life. It's an unavoidable part of social interaction, whereas genitalia only come into play once one gets past the courtship phase. It will forever be a factor in how men size up women and determine whether they try and start a relationship. As to how much of a factor, we've pretty well established that it varies from person to person.
If this discussion is making anyone uncomfortable (and honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if it was at this point), I personally don't have a problem dropping the subject. I tried my best to keep my input neutral, but I realize that if I say anymore I risk offense (read: saying something incredibly stupid and making an ass of myself), and that is absolutely not my intent.
Meh. This thread started off with one of those trap questions that no guy wants to here from his significant other. There is no right or good answer.
I'd imagine Mish didn't really want to drop this sort of question on her man because of that. We are simply saying what we think about it.
Yes, I imagine it can be quite scary just how critical of of boobs guys can be as evidenced here, but at the same time it's like we are talking about what kind of dessert we like best. Except that we don't get to choose what dessert we get, we just get whatever dessert comes with the meal we have. All the desserts are good even if some are better than others, but since the dessert is dictated by the meal chosen, most guys will choose whatever meal suits them best and accept whatever dessert comes with it. I apologize if anyone is annoyed by this analogy, but I'm trying to find a way to answer an impossible question in the nice way that won't hurt anyone's feelings and won't make me a liar.
EDIT: Wow. I think I need to kick myself. That was uncharacteristically bad of me. My typing really has gone to hell lately.
Nobody's perfect; in fact most people are far from it. But most people learn to accept that fact, and they learn to accept it in their boyfriends or girlfriends or husbands and wives.
Girls, you might not find a boy with as flat a stomach as you like, or as thick of hair as you like. Your man might not have big arms, or he might be a little overweight, or he might fart horrible eldritch stenches after meals, whatever. The point is you all get over it. Hell, women say more often than not that looks aren't as important. Take me, I've got a really hot girlfriend myself, and I've had others in the past, and I look like a foot. I make up for it in other areas.
That's the exact point we're trying to make, Bevin. Men like breasts, yes, but they're not deciding factors. We also like different varieties of them for different reasons. Breast size is natural, and boys/girls/whatever are still going to like you regardless. And if they don't, then they're probably shallow and not worth spending time with anyway.
Yes, I imagine it can be quite scary just how critical of of boobs guys can be as evidenced here, but at the same time it's like we are talking about what kind of desert we like best. Except that we don't get to choose what desert we get, we just get whatever desert comes with the meal we have. All the deserts are good even if some are better than others, but since the desert is dictated by the meal chosen, most guys will choose whatever meal suits them best and accept whatever desert comes with it. I apologize if anyone is annoyed by this analogy, but I'm trying to find a way to answer an impossible question in the nice way that won't hurt anyone's feelings and won't make me a liar.
Your analogy annoys me. What a gritty statement you've made. I thirst for a more poetic metaphor, otherwise I'm just wandering lost, under the hot hot sun.
Nice spotting there, I've sort of been scanning through the posts because they're all pretty long and seem to say generally the same thing (that it doesn't matter really but some men do have preferences and they're all different) so I didn't catch those misspellings... but that was bad... like... REALLY BAD.
I'm perfectly fine if this thread dies, but I'll have everyone know that it hasn't bothered me; I wanted the truth, and I got it in a way that I thought was very polite and understanding-- different guys like different boobs, the majority likes pretty much all boobs in different ways, and in the end it doesn't really matter. I thought that I would just let the issue with my boyfriend blow over, but I actually talked to him about it a little last night, and in the end I told him that I understood that he loves me despite any physical things he might want to be better, and he apologized for accidentally making me feel bad. So no hard feelings, it ended how I knew it would end, just as good as our relationship always is. Yay! I thank everyone who added the input, and for all the people who are feeling uncomfortable from seeing this still pop up, I'll make this my last post in here. Probably.
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We could indeed say, "hey, let's shift the attention over to the men". However, the argument won't be anything close to what the breasts one was, simply because of the ratio of men to women posting on this site...
And, as for your first statement... is that because you feel that breasts are judged by size WAAAAY too much, and that we'd all feel inadequate?
Oh, and I'm not married quite yet. The wedding is about 2 weeks away. When I get pictures and everything I will post the best ones here and provide links to the album. I will make sure to get an OB picture, too. Serephel, Behemoth, and I will all be there.
It's a bunch of bullshit, and it's EXACTLY the sort of crap that makes girls feel inadequate and terrible about themselves...
Sorry, I guess this thread is bugging me more than it should. But, were it reversed, were there 10 girls and 2 guys posting about penis size, and shape, and girth, and hardness, ect...you'd probably all start to feel kinda bad about yourselves, I'd bet.
Also, like women, spaghetti has no feelings to hurt!
But, in our defense, we all started by saying that it really doesn't matter, that the most important thing in a girl is her personality and how she carries herself. The rest is all extra. But even still, everyone is going to have preferences, even if those preferences don't play into attraction. I'm sure that almost all women have a preference for a certain penis type, but it usually doesn't impact their choice of who to be with, just like breast size doesn't impact my choice of who to be with.
And yeah, it's not the greatest to know that you don't have the perfect body. Everyone wants that, but almost no one has it. I think you have to kinda look past that and realize that most people will be just fine with what you have, and that how you use what you have is also important.
Some guys have really small or unusually shaped penises. There's nothing they can do about that, and yeah, it would be nice for them to have larger penises, but they just have to make due and use what they have. And these men still are in relationships, and still get married, and still have sex, because of the understanding of their partners, who are, themselves, imperfect.
Harsh.
QUOTE TIME!!!
"Its not about finding the perfect person, its about loving an imperfect person perfectly"
No no, you're taking it the wrong way.
What we've been trying to say is that all breasts are more or less enjoyable, and that they're enjoyable differently. Big floppy milkbags have their applications in bed, but so do small and firm ones.
Men like breasts, yes, but most times they are not a deciding factor in finding a woman. Far from it. While I'm sure there are some guys out there who do think, "This girl has every single interest I have, my friends love her, I could be happy with this girl forever, her ass is amazing, she's totally hot, but DAMNIT she is only a B so I guess we'll never be happy," the vast majority of people don't put that much weight into breast size.
Besides, men have plenty to be insecure about with penis sizes and structures. Especially when you walk around Japan next to a guy who's a head taller than you, much more strongly built, and goes by the monicker Behemoth.
And yes, illithid is getting married in a few weeks. I get to go back to America and best man it up. It will be fun!
I keep trying to get out of this thread, but I felt I should point out that the big difference between discussing female breasts and discussing male genitalia is that the former is visible externally in day-to-day life. It's an unavoidable part of social interaction, whereas genitalia only come into play once one gets past the courtship phase. It will forever be a factor in how men size up women and determine whether they try and start a relationship. As to how much of a factor, we've pretty well established that it varies from person to person.
If this discussion is making anyone uncomfortable (and honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if it was at this point), I personally don't have a problem dropping the subject. I tried my best to keep my input neutral, but I realize that if I say anymore I risk offense (read: saying something incredibly stupid and making an ass of myself), and that is absolutely not my intent.
I'd imagine Mish didn't really want to drop this sort of question on her man because of that. We are simply saying what we think about it.
Yes, I imagine it can be quite scary just how critical of of boobs guys can be as evidenced here, but at the same time it's like we are talking about what kind of dessert we like best. Except that we don't get to choose what dessert we get, we just get whatever dessert comes with the meal we have. All the desserts are good even if some are better than others, but since the dessert is dictated by the meal chosen, most guys will choose whatever meal suits them best and accept whatever dessert comes with it. I apologize if anyone is annoyed by this analogy, but I'm trying to find a way to answer an impossible question in the nice way that won't hurt anyone's feelings and won't make me a liar.
EDIT: Wow. I think I need to kick myself. That was uncharacteristically bad of me. My typing really has gone to hell lately.
Nobody's perfect; in fact most people are far from it. But most people learn to accept that fact, and they learn to accept it in their boyfriends or girlfriends or husbands and wives.
Girls, you might not find a boy with as flat a stomach as you like, or as thick of hair as you like. Your man might not have big arms, or he might be a little overweight, or he might fart horrible eldritch stenches after meals, whatever. The point is you all get over it. Hell, women say more often than not that looks aren't as important. Take me, I've got a really hot girlfriend myself, and I've had others in the past, and I look like a foot. I make up for it in other areas.
That's the exact point we're trying to make, Bevin. Men like breasts, yes, but they're not deciding factors. We also like different varieties of them for different reasons. Breast size is natural, and boys/girls/whatever are still going to like you regardless. And if they don't, then they're probably shallow and not worth spending time with anyway.
Unless you watch The Labyrinth on a daily basis.
my point - none of us are as hot as The Goblin King.
now everyone say it with me -
<shhh shhh, he's gonna say the words>
Goblin King, Goblin King, wherever you may be
Take this thread of mine far, far away from me!
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You remind me of the babe with the power of vodoo, you do remind me of the babe.
Let's make an agreement. "dual" is a good number to have in lieu of "quad"... and david bowie's junk is amazing. can we agree to that?
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Hey guys, whats goin on in this thread?